it's important to have fun while changing the world
no filter(ing the truth anymore. I'm posting this picture only for temporary validation because so much of how I perceive myself depends on social interaction and likes. I'm actively trying to unlearn it but acknowledging it is a big part of making change. so don't forget to like, share and !don't! subscribe to conventional beauty standards)
the most valuable lesson I learned at a young age was to never dumb myself down for boys. women (whether romantically interested in men or not) learn this at different ages of their lives. some learn this before they start pursuing them and others after it's a little too late. when I was younger I excessively compared myself to other girls, I had a 'pick-me!' personality because I was taught other women were my competitors and that the only way I could raise my self esteem was by stepping on someone else's. I became more aware of my insecurities around 15/16. I remember being surrounded by incredibly smart women and instead of feeling immensely privileged that I had the opportunity to experience their intelligence I convinced myself that I was unworthy. a lot of my relationship with myself really changed when I spent time with women who were a. unapologetic about being smart and b. unapologetically encouraging other women. They didn't see other women as a challenge to themselves, their challenge was with the potential they knew they could achieve. I quickly fell in love and tried to make these women a bigger part of my social circle. my world changed when I decided to fuck the whole 'i'm not like other girls' & 'pick-me!' ideology. I am like other girls and I want to be like other girls because every girl is amazing.
✨ Eiffel in love with this city ✨
You only get to see me for a few minutes on stage or in a video, but behind the scenes I spend so much time reading, writing, researching and practicing so that whatever gets on stage or in front of a camera really connects with you. Working as hard as I can to express myself to all of you defines my NOW. Tell me in the comments, what makes you who you are today? Tag @hp_india and use #HowAboutNow to win something! clicked by: @yuvrajsoi
it's good to be forgotten from time to time.
I don't remember when I started subconsciously holding my stomach in. there are days now I have to actively command myself not to. sometimes I feel like I'm selling a lie, conducive in the very system I'm trying to critique. I had clicked a 'before' picture the day I started working out, my brain riddled with body dysmorphia. as I followed more body positivity accounts I realized that 'before' and 'after' pictures of weight-loss will always, no matter how body positive the caption is, reek of anti-fatness. I have since deleted that picture. I'm still learning to accept (maybe some day love) myself and as I have a body that's conventionally accepted this system still benefits me. I think one of the most important things I've learned is that thin shaming isn't the same as fat phobia. So I'm still learning and I'm taking you with me. ( here are some accounts that are helping me unlearn and relearn @itsametaphorfordeath @theeverymanproject @cozibae @anjalipinto @bodyposipanda @alokvmenon @ihartericka @nabela @dreamersrehab @browngirlgazin @miss.lingerista ) so instead of that before and after picture, here's an after picture. after I started reading more. after I reached out to my friends for help. after I started seeing a therapist for my mental health. after I began to forgive myself. after I allowed myself to be. (also go support @sister.library )
is it even real if y'all don't coordinate outfits?
so honoured to share that your brown girl is the youngest member of the Gender Equality Advisory Council for the G7 this year taking place in Biarritz. the council is creating a legislative bouquet for G7 and non G7 countries. two of the many focuses of our council is cyber harassment and rape reparation, will share more details soon. thank you for helping get me here, and I'm excited to take you on this journey with me.
he told me his favourite thing about me is that i speak in the language of post cards, only the important information, (almost) always kind words, a certain hastiness in my speech that is obvious to the world, he says I spill my feelings without being messy and tell the truth without being cruel, speak my mind and seek validation but I'm never hurt with disapproval. he told me his favourite thing about me is that i speak in the language of post cards, he told me that I speak with the urgency to leave, urgency to be some other place that's more demanding of me. he told me his least favourite thing about me is that i leave in the method of post cards, with scope (or hopes) to get lost, and find myself in someone else's arms. he told me his least favourite thing about me is that i leave in the method of post cards, he stamps me with love bites and a good bye kiss, and says he'll miss having me even though he knows I was never his.
forgive forgive forgive yourself. allow yourself to be.
brown girl has become browner. ty Kochi
I'm your basic average girl, And I'm here to save the world.
shoulda coulda woulda
IG baddie Aranya vs irl Aranya
for the longest time I tried to disassociate from predominantly feminine things and predominantly desi things and saris came under both. what also came under both? me. wearing this sari was important for me because I realized I was proud of being feminine and desi and no one could change that or erase that. alternate picture caption: thumka lagaike she'll rock your world
tell me how good it feels to be needed.
this is a 1000005% natural candid picture...,I totally didn't ...pose ...so that my highlighter would pop!!!!no, I would never!!!¡!!
I may or may not have trespassed for this photo. (I just really loved the background okay)
if I become an author this will be the picture I put on the back of the book.
to 2018 aranya, I have to tell you something you'd never believe. so it's valentine's and I'm sorta realising that I actually kinda love us??? this past year has attempted to break us in multiple ways but guess what??? this bitch fought back. and we're happy and healthy and loving and loved and forgiving and learning and writing. I'm proud of us. I love u!!
Think I'm better off here all alone tonight.
a thought is love's currency - mac miller
Writing a whole new set for this gig which includes pieces I will never perform ever again. You'll see me perform about mangoes and love and medication and nariyal ka pani and bruised elbows and summers and sex and books and secrets and privilege and make up and me. Come?
fool for you
Godbless this hot mess
hi! welcome to my restaurant, today we're serving looks. photo creds: Vishnu Nair
It was so so fun being a part of @innov8.work's mental health panel, hosted by @viceindia. Their work place is super conducive to better productivity and they prioritize a healthy work life balance (AND THEIR WORK PLACE HAS A NAP ROOM). All yays!
peek a boo🖤
You could hold moonlight in your hands.
break the mould.
on the fence about you.
Rediscovered myself, took back my heart.
I held a cloud.
The beauty of the struggle when it comes to pass. - Goalkeepers 2018, New York City.
in and out of believing in love
Lay off with your handy work of candy words.
You still don’t understand, a woman is holy
I hope you learn to make it on your own, and if you love yourself just know you'll never be alone - Big Sean
i dont wanna feel like i need you
✧ sparks will fly ✧
So honored to announce that I'm gonna be a part of Goalkeepers New York City 2018 alongside other wonderful personalities! More speakers to be announced. Here we're going to discuss multiple ways to achieve the 17 global goals. I'm excited to take you on this journey with me so that we can grow and learn together! 🙆 feel free to message me about the goal that matters the most to you! 💕
so excited to tell you about my collab with @paniswimwear. PANI swimsuits are made keeping Indian women's body shapes and types in mind and are created using recycled fish nets and ocean waste. They surveyed over a hundred women in India to understand what it takes to make the perfect fit and if you want to get your hands on their swim suits, they're hosting an exclusive private dinner with a few personalities, and 10 people who will chosen upon participation to make it for their launch! In order to sign up, follow their IG (@paniswimwear) and register via the link in their bio and if you get selected you'll be fitted, and we'll get to share a dinner together! #panigirls
I made ponytails today after forever and thought you all deserved to see it haha 💕