Toni Morrison’s words are so heavy with truth that one sentence can bring you to your knees or set you free. Her writing challenged me, taught me, and nurtured me. And, Toni Morrison changed the way I’m raising my children. Link to article in profile . 📷 Jack Mitchell | Getty Images
Dear Educators, Because we believe that you are our most important and bravest leaders, we have spent the past three years in serious reflection about how to best serve you and the work you do every day. . We are proud to launch Dare to Lead #daringclassrooms, a free companion program to Dare to Lead, developed specifically for K-12 (primary and secondary school) educators who are committed to courage-building in and outside the classroom. . Link in profile to explore the Dare to Lead #daringclassrooms hub on brenebrown.com. . Because we wanted to remove as many barriers as possible to educators interested in this work, all of the resources, including a read-along for educators, integration plans, and video Learning Labs are free. . We’re grateful for you. We stand with you. . And, a special thanks to my team who have all worked their asses off to make this happen. Every single one of us has been fueled by our appreciation for educators. #courageovercomfort
A reminder for all of us. We can’t give up on vulnerability. It’s the path back to ourselves and each other. #embracethesuck
Courageous leadership is a practice. We have great free downloads and resources on our Dare to Lead hub. Stay brave, awkward, and kind. Link in bio.
Summer loving. Had me a blast. This is Steve in his element - sunset boat ride listening to Freddie Fender. ♥️
There is no mastery without feedback. But it’s hard. . Not everyone that gives us feedback is skilled at delivering it in a meaningful way. . And, we’re not always open to hearing it. . This checklist has really helped me over the years. . My mantra for receiving feedback: Be brave. Listen. You can take what’s helpful and leave the rest. . My mantra for giving feedback: Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind. . Stay brave, awkward, and kind, friends. . Link in profile for a free download of the checklist.
Dear @uswnt - GOAT! As a mom who gave birth to a daughter in June of 1999, you taught us what was possible. My daughter doesn’t know a world without you and it’s made such a difference. We will always believe! ❤️⚽️❤️ And thank you Netherlands for a great game!
Happy Pride! Every month. Every day. Every minute. Own your story. Speak your truth. Love big. ❤️🌈👊🏼
HELP END THE CHILD DETENTION ATROCITIES. TogetherRising.org/give OR LINK in Profile 13,100 children are imprisoned right now in federal custody — alone, without their families — facing horrifying neglect and abuse. . Today, we will give these kids a defender who will step in front of the abuse they are facing, a protector who will ensure that the atrocities end, and an advocate who will make sure those responsible are held accountable. . Holly Cooper, co-director of the Immigration Law Clinic at UC Davis, and her team have inspected more than 30 detention centers over the last few years, saving countless kids. . Last month, their legal team found a premature infant so ill she would have died without immediate treatment. The team fought federal authorities to transport the baby to the hospital. And saved her life. Same with 3 more gravely ill toddlers. . As an attorney of record in the crucial FLORES settlement, Holly’s team is one of only a handful of legal teams in the world with the right to access CBP facilities, demand inspections, obtain full medical files of the kids, and procure the census of every child detained. . $240,000 will get Holly’s team what they need to continue this AND/BOTH work for 2 years: get to the sites for inspections, interview kids, remove them to protect their health & safety, and build legal cases to ensure that these government atrocities end. . There are 13,100 kids right now desperately praying for a defender. Let’s do this together. $5 makes a difference. . As always, every penny @together.rising receives from your tax-deductible gifts will go to help these kids. Please give at link above or in my profile.
I had so much fun talking to the smart, kind, funny, and wickedly smart @trewrussellbrand Link in bio. #sonofaseacook
Happy 25th anniversary to the great love of my life. It seems like yesterday that we were scrounging for money under the couch cushions to buy bean and cheese tacos at our favorite taqueria in Austin. Today we’re in Austin taking our incredible daughter to eat tacos for her 20th birthday (and upping the average graffiti wall age). Grateful beyond words. ❤️
Thank you, Henri. These are the lies that keep us small, afraid, and quiet. It was such an honor to write the foreword for his book, Love, Henri: Letters on the Spiritual Life.
In an interview, writer Mary Karr said, "When I got sober, I thought giving up [alcohol] was saying goodbye to all the fun and all the sparkle, and it turned out to be just the opposite. That’s when the sparkle started for me." This is definitely my truth. Sobriety makes good on the sparkle that booze/drugs/numbing promises but never delivers. Today I'm sharing what being sober for 23 years has meant to me, done for me, and why I think recovery is one of my greatest superpowers. Link in bio (and we are back up)!
The 2019 "Grad Stack" is Wolfpack by @abbywambach, Moment of Lift by @melindafrenchgates and The Path Made Clear by @oprah. Love all three of these books and the daring women who wrote them! They're the perfect gift for high school and college grads who are ready for their next adventure. Stay brave, kind and awkward! BB
I can't watch anything too violent, so I've never seen an episode for GoT; however, I looked forward to the Monday morning commentary with the same passion that viewers felt about the show. . It became a guilty researcher/storyteller pleasure to read the social media comments and articles to see what people needed, wanted, hated, loved, and loathed from/about the characters and the storyline. . I came across this quote in an article, and I love it. ❤️ . #gameofthrones
This week’s TGIF newsletter is on its way! My “inspiration” for the week is our collaboration with @blacktherapistsrock. The @thedaringway is our training and certification program for helping professionals, and this is our third year partnering with this amazing group of clinicians. Including the training we just finished in Maryland this week, 77 therapists have come through our training program! . Changing the world one healing conversation at a time ♥️
When @amypoelher asks you to play yourself in a quick cameo for her directorial debut! . Not only did I get to bring my own group of awesome friends, look at this cast of brilliant, funny, strong-ass women! . One of my favorite parts of the entire thing was watching Amy as a leader. She was clear and kind, serious and funny, tough and tender - it was inspiring to watch that kind of daring leadership. . #WineCountry is on @netflix now!
No matter how much we plan and prepare, life calls and we have to answer. There's no dodging that call and, whatever you do, don't try to silence the ringer — that's just asking the universe to turn up the volume. I was supposed to be in Romania today for an event that I've been looking forward to for many months, but life had a different plan for me, and I'm home with my family right now. I'm trusting that I’m where I’m supposed to be, and I’m also trusting that all of the time, energy, and effort we’ve put into learning how to show up and lean into each other with grace and love will give us soft places to land. Shared my second TGIF in our new newsletter today. To sign up for next week's and to join us in a weekly gratitude practice, visit the link in my bio. #TGIFpractice Photo Credit: Iconquistador on Unsplash
Learning can only happen in spaces where armor is neither necessary nor rewarded. Thank you to all of the teachers who are creating these spaces — you are the DARING leaders. More about daring leadership in the classroom on the blog, including links to free school, classroom and library downloads. Swipe to check out the different versions - including one for my friends, the librarians! Link in bio.
Like so many of you, I was challenged, healed, and changed by Rachel's words. I am heartbroken for her family and friends, and for a world that desperately needed her voice.
During hard conversations, when I feel myself reaching for my favorite armor (perfectionism, anger, being the knower, trying to control, emotional intensity, getting critical), I try to remember that the antidote to armoring up is staying curious. These are a few of my favorite questions and sentence starters. Read more about it on the blog. Link in profile.
Super excited about @instagram’s new giving tool. 100% of the funds go to the nonprofits (and the nonprofits have to meet strict requirements). Check out my stories for a few of my favorite nonprofits and our new "Give Now" highlight circle. More to come!
1. Thank you for the @netflix love this week! HOLY SHIT. We did it, y'all. 2. TGIF is back, baby! For those of you who go WAY back (when I was blogging about shame, clogs, and hedgehogs), you know exactly what I'm talking about. Think of this as a weekly gratitude practice meets an awesome email round-up of everything: T I'm Trusting right now G Grateful for this week I Inspiring me F having Fun doing It's a weekly Friday email. You can use the link in profile to sign up. Stay awkward, brave, and kind this weekend. ❤️
It's clear that the days of "engineering smallness and playing it safe to avoid criticism" are over. What a CRAZY, fun, SCARY moment in Times Square. There was a lot of screaming. I'm doing a Facebook Live today at 2pm EST from the Facebook offices in NYC. I'm taking questions about the @netflix special. Join us!
One of my favorite poems for you on Earth Day. Let us come together to be better stewards of the earth and let the world offer itself to our imagination. Thank you for the Netflix love this weekend. A powerful tonic for the vulnerability hangover. Stay brave, awkward and kind this week.
Just wanted to share my very fun and totally surreal day with y’all! I spent yesterday at the @netflix offices in LA getting ready for the launch on Friday. This first pic is the reception area. CRAZY. After a lot of press interviews coordinated by the amazing @laurensmithford and team #calltocourage - I took a short break and took Ellen to get her ears pierced with my friend @eliseloehnen - we all got new piercings! Ellen and I added a 3rd on each side (this pic is post deep breathing). Then I wrapped up the night back at @netflix where my friend @lavernecox interviewed me about my work. She is such a badass. It was crazy fun!! And a little scary. But I’m in the arena and working to stay brave, kind and awkward. ❤️ Friday is the day!
I can’t tell you how much I love @abbywambach and her new book WOLFPACK. We read it aloud in our family. It really changed the way I think about courage, love and connection. So many amazing lessons. The two I’m working on: Be grateful AND ask for what you need. And my new mantra: Point or rush, friends! That lesson blew me away! ❤️
When we screw up or fall down, many of us talk to ourselves in ways that we would never talk to someone we love and respect. You're such an idiot! You're so stupid! WTF were you thinking??? Talking to ourselves from self-love and self-respect is a practice. I used to feel super self-conscious and vulnerable saying kind things to myself: "It's ok. Everyone makes mistakes. You're going to be ok." But I'm getting better. And, it's an amazing thing to model to our children. It's better for my kids to hear me walking around saying weird and loving things to myself when I drop a ball, than to hear me berating myself and copy that behavior. Stay kind, brave, and awkward, friends!
(Swipe twice to see the whole trailer) The great Aretha Franklin is church. Amazing Grace is my God song - my "on my knees" song. I can barely get through the trailer. Bring a tear towel to the theater and go support this film!
My five rules for speaking: 1. Generosity. Bring all you have. It's ok to be brave and afraid at the same time. 2. Gratitude. Remember they're giving you their most precious resource: TIME! 3. Connect. It's all about collective connection. Look into their eyes. 4. Service. It's not about you. Stop doing it if/when it becomes about you. 5. Never take yourself too seriously. Laugh, learn, keep it real. Five minutes before I went on stage for SXSW, I found Charlie's stick-on mustache in my jacket pocket. It was such a good reminder. BTS Green Room 📸 by @aaron ❤️
Love this JOMO definition shared by @drwillcole - great weekend wisdom and so much better for our mojo than FOMO (swipe right for a definition I posted when Rising Strong came out). ❤️
I can’t wait to launch this new book with my friend @melindafrenchgates! Join us — it’s an awesome read on changing our lives and the world. Link in profile.
Last month, I made my second trip to Newtown to do some work with the Sandy Hook community. Jeremy and Jen started the Avielle Foundation to honor their daughter, Avielle, who was one of the 20 children and six adults murdered in the 2012 school shooting. The Avielle Foundation invited me to be a part of their speaker series on brain health and violence prevention. Jeremy died of an apparent suicide yesterday. I feel heartbroken and gutted. But I won’t look away. And, I ask that you continue to look pain in the eye. We absolutely need to lean into the joy, laughter, beauty, love, and connection in our lives. As much and as often as we can. And, when called, we need to stand with those in pain. We need to make sure that when we see a heart breaking, we bare our own broken heart and stand together so we know that, even in the midst of struggle, we’re not alone. Even if our stories are different, broken, bruised and skinned hearts recognize each other, and when they come together they have the power to heal and create change.
I’m THIS ready for the weekend! BTW, you can see the jean jacket love dates back to the 70’s! ❤️🌈🦄
I BS you not! ❤️ #netflix
The weather in ATX was so perfect today. I grabbed my camera, walked around our yard, and took 50 pictures. These are 10 of my favorites. I’m such a huge believer in photography as a gratitude practice. Stop. Breathe. Give thanks. The link in my profile is an ACTION PLAN for Fighting Hatred and Bigotry from @feedourdemocracy Taking action is another life-giving practice. There’s everything on this list from where to donate to classes and books. A wild heart can be grateful for beautiful moments and find joy in small things. While not turning our backs on the pain in the world. It’s not either/or - it’s exhale AND inhale.
Two comments from @broyal12 that ask all of the right and hard questions. And a quote from The King Center. Listen, learn, love, act. Click the link in my profile for an important perspective on the violence in New Zealand.
If you can't join us in Austin on Friday, 3/8, you can livestream the talk at 11am CST using the link in my profile. I'll be talking about: "The Only Unfollow that Broke My Heart." 📷 by the amazing @ramonarosales
(Swipe twice to see the whole video) . The Daring Way™ is an empirically based training and certification program for helping professionals, based on my research. We offer curricula that focus on the topics covered in my books, including courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy. Our methodology is designed for work with individuals, couples, families, and groups. . Our goal is to make the world a more courageous place by helping people learn how to show up, be seen, and live brave. We rigorously train helping professionals in an effective and empirically based approach to change. . We’re building a community of wholehearted practitioners who believe in the worthiness of all people and who are dedicated to walking with them on some of their most difficult journeys. To maintain the integrity of our program, our community of professionals has access to peer support, case consultation, the exchange of ideas, and ongoing practice development and tools. . Click the link in my bio to join us in May or July for one of our 2019 trainings! . Stay brave, kinda awkward, and always kind. BB
From Rising Strong: . Research participants who shared stories of shame around religion had less in common than most people guess. No specific denomination has emerged as more shaming in my work; however, there is a strong pattern worth noting. . Over half of the participants who talked about experiencing shame in their faith histories also found resilience and healing through spirituality. The majority of them changed their churches or their beliefs, but spirituality and faith remain important parts of their lives. . They believed that the sources of shame arose from the earthly, man-made, human-interpreted rules or regulations and the social/community expectations of religion rather than their personal relationships with God or the divine. . Our faith narratives must be protected, and we must remember that no person is ordained to judge our divinity or to write the story of our spiritual worthiness.
I’m in for any morning that starts like this! Look at all these #badasswomen #watermarkconf
The root of the word courage is cor – the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage had a very different definition than it does today. Courage originally meant "To speak one's mind by telling all one's heart." . Over time, this definition has changed, and today, courage is more synonymous with being heroic. Heroics is important and we certainly need heroes, but I think we've lost touch with the idea that speaking honestly and openly about who we are, about what we're feeling, and about our experiences (good and bad) is the definition of courage. . Heroics is often about putting our life on the line. Ordinary courage is about putting our vulnerability on the line. In today's world that's pretty extraordinary.
It’s not fear that gets in the way of showing up - it’s armor. It’s the behaviors we use to self-protect. We can be afraid and brave at the same time. . But the armor suffocates courage and cages our hearts. The goal is to create spaces where armor is neither necessary nor rewarded. #daretolead #subversive . 📷 selfie from The Parker Hotel
Love is easy to profess and a shit ton of work to practice. Stay brave, awkward, and kind this week. . PS: This image is our free monthly download for February. You can grab it at the link in my bio.
Today is International Holocaust Remembrance Day. The date marks the anniversary of the liberation of Auschwitz by the Soviet army in 1945. . More than 1.1 million people are estimated to have died in the concentration camp between 1940 and 1945.