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It’s hard being a creative person choosing to use that creativity as capital to try to make a sustainable life!!!! We finally are grasping this concept of sustainability when it comes to our home (Mother Earth, obvs). Finding a way to live that feels sUsTaInAbLe for us emotionally as humans is a whole different story. What earns us money isn’t necessarily what fulfills us the most. But we are grateful to be earning, and shouldn’t look a gift horse in the mouth (I mean this in earnest). And yet, we have to look for more, what lies deeper, and work that much harder to keep this living going and also feed our creativity. And feed it with the desire of it becoming our livelihood. Wow. The pressure!!!! I have been doing more or less this since I was very young and I will probably never get used to it. From those I’ve had the pleasure of talking about this very thing with, I think no one ever gets used to it. Maybe? Creatives, especially those of you who feel PRESSURE to make something excellent because you value how it will impact your future, how do you decide something is done? How do you sign off on it? How do you personally find other creatives to collaborate with? I would love to hear from all of you. This is not a ploy to get engagement on this post (!!!), you would really be doing me (and whoever digs into these comments) a service by sharing your heart and insight (even if you think it’s not universal and specific only to you, it is actually helpful. Humans are so similar even when we think we’re not). ~~~~~ Sending you love — and will try to post somewhat more semi-regularly, but I also want to only share when I *actually* want to, and since so much of Instagram feels very fake these days, I haven’t been wanting to feed it. 🍔🍟🥐🥖🥞🍝🥟🍱

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We’re back from Japan, but you better believe I’m going to pretend we’re still there. There’s no one I’d rather travel the world with. I love you, Mama! Happy Mother’s Day. 💛🌞🌻 - (Prepare for exclusively photos from Kyoto & Tokyo for the foreseeable future). 🇯🇵

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#ThirsTEAskin @innisfreeusa 🍵🍃 #ad 〰️➿〰️ (nails by @color_camp)

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It’s gonna be a bloody good year. p.s. it’s my birthday.

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My big mood for 2019 is figuring out the kind of love we want to receive. ♡ Vulnerability and intimacy exist in so many areas of our lives, way outside of and separate from sex (though also within sex sometimes). Any time there’s vulnerability or intimacy present, it’s worth exploring your feelings, how you want to be treated, your own internalized societal/familial/personal/whatever pressures and standards that are sabotaging your ability to explore what you need. ♥ What’s also hugely on my mind is how sex and sexiness are so often conflated with one another, but actually often exist tooootally separately from one another. Someone can be in a sexy mood, and feel sexy, and NOT want to have sex. This often applies to womxn and femmes, though not exclusively. ♥ On the flip side, I think many men are conditioned to be totally detached from feeling sexy, seductive, embracing sexuality, yet are also conditioned to want / expected to want sex all the time. This leads to a detachment of sexiness from sex. ♥ There is so much to unpack regarding how we separate shame from wanting to receive love in a certain way, how to separate shame from feeling sexy, how to separate shame from our sexuality, and how to separate shame from our relationship with sex. They are separate, and also deeply interwoven. ♥ Talk about it. Write about it. Sit with it. Meditate on it. However you work things out. ♥ I want you to learn the kind of love you want to receive (in every area of your life). I am still learning and, if all goes well, will always be learning. ♡ Love you.

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last selfie of 2018 / thank you, next

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If you feel comfortable manifesting and vocalizing some dreams and aspirations of yours, leave your words, thoughts, feelings in the comments! You don’t need to wait until Jan. 1st. You can make moves right now! I started doing something this year — I started saying OUT LOUD, to actual PEOPLE, the goals, the new creative endeavors I was embarking upon. Not saying these things out loud is so much easier — because no one will know if they don’t happen the way you hope they will. Saying them OUT LOUD held me accountable — which was terrifying. And guess what? By telling people, opportunity opened up for me that absolutely wouldn’t have otherwise. And kind people had the opportunity to — get this — actually help me. And they wouldn’t have had any idea that I could use some help if I hadn’t spoken up! SPEAK UP! Everyone, leave supportive responses to the individuals who comment below. This is about all of us lifting one another up. We are more together than we are alone! 💫 — idea for this open forum / safe space for dreams and aspirations came from @chellaman, I want to give credit. boilersuit by @stuffwithprints (ft. art by @alexandria_coe) photos by @drewhphoto

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Honor everything you let go of this year, this month, this week, this moment (because thinking about all you’ve let go of brings up a lot of feelings, and you’re doing a smashing job of letting go again in this very moment). The absence of something feels scary...but it’s not. It’s you creating space for all the new things you will invite in in the new year. Things so new you haven’t even felt them yet, haven’t tasted them yet, haven’t conceived of them yet. Welcome them in. Honor what’s to come. - • - What have you let go of this year that felt big for you? Or maybe something that felt small at the time and proved to be huge? What are you creating space for? 🌊

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When it’s Dec. 23 and it’s still 70° and sunny out. Flashback to a girl date with @helenaveee. P.S. my bracelet says “i heart boobies” @keepabreast 💞

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big thicc energy - photo taken in the incredible @kimsingtheatre by @fitflexjuli wearing favorite boilersuit by @stuffwithprints (ft. dancing ladies art by @alexandria_coe) nails by @oliveandjune jewels by @cuffedbynano

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My energy has been all over the place this week. Soaring on joy one day, drained as hell the next. Each day seems to present a new trial. I know life is always this way in small ways, and for many people, bigger ways than what I’m experiencing. But all I can speak honestly and truthfully on is what I know from first hand experience. This has been a big week for being brave and inviting in new energy, and also for being brave and creating boundaries. And it seems to alternate back and forth every day. Will I step up to the plate and let myself be open to something or someone that might really enrich my life? Will I step up to the plate and stop my boundaries from being crossed, set an example for how I want to be treated, and how it’s okay to treat womxn and femmes in general? I’m trying. Some days I feel weary, some days I feel strong as hell. I’m here. I’m grateful I’m able to keep replenishing myself, but I couldn’t do it alone. I have been leaning on those I love. Thank you. — Do you feel this way? Ever? Now? I know a bunch of you have and do. If you feel comfortable sharing, I’d love to hear from you in the comments. We’re not alone. 😌 • • • photo taken in the incredible @kimsingtheatre by @fitflexjuli wearing favorite boilersuit by @stuffwithprints (ft. dancing ladies art by @alexandria_coe)

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V casual Sunday brunch attire, nbd. 👱🏼‍♀️ - • - This image is from my feature in the Dec. issue of @killinitmag! Link in bio for full interview. — photo by @acaciaevans makeup by @glambyamandaj styled by @jazminwhitley hair by @lindsayvictoriahair & @dell.miller jewels by @adinas.jewels

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I spent last night being hugged with my eyes closed, bowing to everyone I met eyes with, affirming and being affirmed with sincere, verbal WOW and YES. And ended by laying down while two strangers (no longer strangers) whispered in my ears the positive truth they lent to my inner voice (and I did the same back for them). - I’m so grateful I was treated to this amazing human experience with the @magicofhumanconnection. I was invited to an event by @findtap x @baumewatches, and I thought we were going to talk about water, how to help reduce our carbon footprint, eat some good food, and that would be about it. I couldn’t have been more wrong. What followed was a feeling of ease, comfort, we were all on the same playing field. We stripped away the confusion and questioning regarding how much is too much when it comes to seeing another person, allowing them to see us, connecting in a way that feels intimate without feeling our boundaries overstepped. - And the craziest part...we didn’t know before we arrived what would be happening, and almost everyone participating (about 40 people) had never met before. Would you ever engage in an activity like this? What impact do you think it may have on you? Do you feel apprehensive? Wonder? I’d love to hear your thoughts. ❤️💛 - . - This image is from my feature in the Dec. issue of @killinitmag! Link in bio for full interview. 🌙 — photo by @acaciaevans makeup by @glambyamandaj styled by @jazminwhitley hair by @lindsayvictoriahair & @dell.miller dress by @stuffwithprints jewels by @adinas.jewels

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I’m so excited for what the future has to hold. I talk about this and more — screenwriting! my new series! — in the December issue of @killinitmag. — Go read the full interview and see all the photos! Link in bio. 💃🏼 — photos by @acaciaevans makeup by @glambyamandaj styled by @jazminwhitley hair by @lindsayvictoriahair & @dell.miller jewels by @adinas.jewels nails by @polishedby.sam at @oliveandjune

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Thinking back to my time in Prague earlier this year. This was a pivotal time in my life. A time of taking more control of the way I move through life, simply by valuing my own instincts. In my experience, it’s important to surround yourself with intelligent, intuitive, thoughtful people who can help guide you — but when you trust everyone’s opinion over your own, that’s a problem. Maybe every moment is a pivotal one, a new chance to trust myself or not. And it’s okay to falter. But I have to remember that I am my own best guide. I do not need to do this life alone, and I’m not better served doing it alone, but I need to value and trust my own instincts. It’s a muscle that I strengthen. If you’re a podcast person, you have to listen to listen to Without Fail, a Gimlet podcast. This isn’t sponsored in the slightest, I was just so moved by the opening episode of this podcast. You’re treated to an interview with Nina Jacobson, a very influential, successful mogul in the entertainment industry. She discusses trusting her gut, how it’s led her to success, and how she continued to trust her gut even when it led her to failure. This podcast is so inspirational and brought me to tears more than once. If you ever struggle with trusting your intuition, give it a listen. - If you have any thoughts or experiences with trusting your intuition, I’d be honored if you’d share in the comments. Who knows who you may inspire? 💛✨ - photo by @kathysandersmusic

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Wrap yourself up in the ones you love. #rainydaysnuggles 🌧 — (This is not how I’m spending my day currently, though it would be cute as hell).

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Nothing clever or profound to say this Tuesday. Just, I love you. 🥰 - How do you convey love? Tell me in the comments. Sometimes words go a long way. In fact, as someone who was in a long distance relationship for a very long time, I often only had words to convey love. I’m someone who loves to convey love through physical connection. I’m the biggest cuddler you’ll probably ever meet. - P.S. both our hair was cut by @lindsayvictoriahair, we’re one of those couples, how cute 😘😂

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Observe: this is a girl who has been hibernating for the past week. Had a cold, feel much better now. This is a shot from a magazine shoot I did a few weeks ago. Fake lashes, glitter, fun stuff. But don’t be fooled. A shiny facade does not indicate anything going on in the insides. Some days, I look the shiniest and it’s a front to help myself catch up with where I want to be / know I can be emotionally/mentally/creatively. Most days, I’m no makeup, no glamour, and living in truth and in happiness and, when I’m lucky, in a well of creativity. • Don’t be fooled by shiny exteriors. We’re all just out here trying. I respect and salute you. 💋

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My lip gloss is poppin’. 💋🥰 • My lips (and all my skin in general, actually) get so much drier as soon as Fall and Winter begin to hit. I discovered this super moisturizing balm by @frenchkissmakeup and I looove it. It’s made with so many good-for-you things like sweet almond oil 🌰, avocado oil 🥑, evening primrose oil 🌹, orange oil 🍊, aloe gel 🌱... The list goes on. You can wear it over lip color, wear it bare on your lips, cuticles, whatever... BUT you can also mix it with some brown sugar and make your own scrub. 🤤 • It’s 20% off for the holidays, so, y’know. ☺️ • COMMENT ANY KISS EMOJI 💋😘😗😙😚 and I’ll kiss back 😇 -•- thanks, @kathysandersmusic, for snapping these pics

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Just a handful of the cuties I saw at @comicconla. Swipe through to see some familiar faces. 🦄🤓🥳🙇🏻‍♀️✨

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I operate best when my confidence is high and my ego is low. Do you ever think about the difference between these things? I think it’s really easy to get the two confused. ✱ Confidence is grounded in an inner knowing of self-worth, my worthiness of taking up space. It comes from the inside and it helps me feel full. Ego is an externalized boastfulness that’s used (often subconsciously) to diminish others as a way of trying to feel full — when, in reality, ego empties me and leaves me totally dependent on external validation, things outside my control. ✱ Do you operate from a place of confidence or ego? I’ll be utterly honest and say that it has been a journey for me to unpack my ego and learn to move from a place of confidence and love. And some days test me far more than others. On those days, I try to remember to give myself an extra reminder. This morning, those words came to me. “I operate best when my confidence is high and my ego is low.” ✱ P.S. I can’t stress enough that the journey toward confidence is a rocky one, a slow one. Please don’t be hard on your sweet soul as you make your way along this journey. ⌁ ✱ ⌁ hair by @dell.miller and @lindsayvictoriahair, styled by @jazminwhitley, whiter smile thanks to @the_smile_expert ✨

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I’m here with you. I’m breathing with you. Sometimes words don’t come. Sometimes words aren’t enough. Sometimes words get caught in your throat and you can’t seem to find the right words. But you are breathing. - Take a deep breath in to a count of 5. Hold it in for a count of 5. Exhale slowly for a count of 5. Hold at the bottom of your exhale for a count of 5. Continue until you feel a little more peace inside yourself. Even 10% more. 💛

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bts for my shoot with @killinitmag! So excited for my feature and interview coming in the Dec. issue. ✨💛 • Had the best time hanging with @acaciaevans and @glambyamandaj and I’m still not over it. Styled by @jazminwhitley. 🥰

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This concludes my favorite photo series: CMBYN - A Tribute Erin Sanders as Elio Adam Johan as Oliver - P.S. Just imagine us walking around almost-kissing for these photos. 😂🥰 - Please comment your favorite @cmbynfilm quote and then I’ll stop flooding your feed with these photos. 😅🍑☺️

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“We had the stars, you and I. And this is given once only.” ⭐️🌙 - COMMENT YOU’VE VOTED AND I’LL REPLY. 🍑

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“Elio, Elio, Elio...” “Oliver, Oliver, Oliver...” 🍑 -•- Thank you, @djadamjohan, for being such a good sport and fulfilling all my @cmbynfilm cosplay dreams with me. (I’m not crying, you’re crying.) . If you love Call Me By Your Name, comment the 🍑 emoji below. . I found these incredible vintage shorts from @zebra.in.pink and @vogue_squared respectively. Tap photo for details. 🍑💛

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“Don’t tell Mama.” AMMA // THE WOMAN IN WHITE - @hbo @sharpobjectstv @elizascanlen #ammacrellin - Persephone / Amma flower crown by the amazing @fridaflowercrowns 🥀 #fridaflowercrowns - HAPPY HALLOWEEN 💀 - photos by @kathysandersmusic who was brave enough to wander the woods with me

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When you don’t get breakfast before your panel at @comicconla. 🍩⚡️🦄 - Thank you so much to @stephenglickman and @thenighttimeshow for having me on the panel WE ARE YOUR CHILDHOOD. I had a blast reminiscing about old times, talking about our worst audition experiences, and sharing our favorite reasons to be in this madhouse of an industry. - Swipe through to see me posing with a giant unicorn. - Styled in this incredible cutout jumpsuit by my babe, @jazminwhitley. Nails @polishedby.sam at @oliveandjune. 💅🏽

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This last year, I’ve gotten so much better at letting go of the past, looking toward the future not as something to be feared, but as an endless well of surprise and possibility. And that requires letting go of what I’ve known to be true, to make room for what’s to come — to stop my preconceived notions about myself from getting in my way. . That being said, I’m not ready to let go of summer. 💛🌞✨

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Who’s going to be at @comicconla this Saturday, Oct. 27?! I’m going to be on the panel YOU ARE MY CHILDHOOD at 11:45am with some amaaazing staples of our formative years. Leave a comment if you’re coming, and please come say hey! ⚡️💛🌝✨ - this gorg yellow moment from the @deadline Awards Season Kickoff Party was styled by @jazminwhitley, and this Saturday’s look will be as well 😌🎀

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Things I’m doing this Sunday: •stream of consciousness writing •working on the second draft of my first screenplay •spending time outside in the sunshine •teaching a yin yoga class -•- Tell me what you’re doing today!

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Never not taking pictures in your cute bathroom. 😬👋🏼 . . . sustainable denim by @boyishjeans

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That time I sat at a café in Prague for literally 7 hours just reading and eating all the things. ☕️ - I usually have this habit of packing as many activities as possible in when I’m traveling, which leads to me feeling exhilarated but also exhausted. Been trying to be honest with myself about what I need. Have you ever spent a bunch of time abroad just reading, resting, reflecting? - P.S. Tell me your book recommendations in the comments! 📚

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💀 If death of self was not to be feared, what would I do? 💀 -•- TELL ME IN THE COMMENTS: If death of self was not to be feared, what would you do? 💫 -•- Two days ago was #WorldMentalHealthDay. I didn’t post anything because I have been putting nearly all my energy into a new project of mine. I’ve finally decided to start writing, to tell the stories I want to be telling, stories I don’t see elsewhere, and to change MY story. • We can become so fixated on an idea of who we are or what we’re good at, that we totally limit ourselves. We put ourselves in a box. I have put myself in more than one box in this lifetime. With much tenacity, through much heartache, and with much support of those around me, I keep finding my way out. And writing this feels very revealing. But y’know? I think that’s important. • I think it’s so necessary that we’re working to destigmatize the topic of mental health. I don’t know a single person who doesn’t struggle with anxiety or depression, myself included. Maybe we’re all just destined to be anxious people who feel deep sadness? I don’t know. • There’s also a difference between feeling depressed (which can be very intense) and having clinical depression. Just as with any clinically diagnosed mental illness — this needs to be treated with the same respect and validity as any physical illness one may be diagnosed with. Don’t invalidate the journey of others. Don’t invalidate your OWN journey. Physical wellness has been prioritized over mental wellness for too long. ❤️ • Know that there is a world of support out here for you. Take care of your mental health. Take care of your heart.

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When you make the exact same face as Oliver in THAT scene. - “Elio, Elio, Elio, Elio, Elio, Elio, Elio, Elio, Elio...” 🍑 - Tag your favorite CMBYN fan account / fave friend who’s obsessed with CMBYN. 🌹😛

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Let a womxn be. Let her breathe. Encourage her. Vote her into office. Lift her up when you can. She doesn’t need saving, but we all need support. Hear her. Believe her. Love her.

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People I’m very grateful for: 1. All women, those who I call my friends and those I admire from afar, speaking up about their experiences with sexual assault. You’re so brave and important. Those of you who are survivors and are choosing not to speak out — you are EQUALLY brave and important. Living is brave. You are so good. • 2. POC and WOC, those who are my friends and those who I admire from afar, who speak honestly with me about race and injustice and help me learn and grow. Obviously no one owes me any information. I just want to be the best ally I can be — and again I know this isn’t about me. This is about my gratitude for you. • 3. Queer people, those who are my friends and those I admire from afar, who open up to me about their life experiences, their sexuality, their gender identity, and help me learn more about the world and about myself in the process. • 4. Artists everywhere who take the very scary steps to rip their heart out and serve pieces of it in their art, to help us all feel. • 5. My mom, @kathysandersmusic, who took this photo, who is my favorite companion in all areas of my life.

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Some thoughts on my mind: - 1. People have been asking if I live at the beach! Honestly, I’ve just been working to prioritize my time. I’m really lucky that my schedule is super irregular, and when I have a few daytime hours with nowhere to be, I’ll go to the beach for an hour. I’ve been trying to do this once a week while it’s warm. I still work six days a week (teaching yoga and acting and working on other creative projects)! I’ve realized that I can do more with my time if I really work for it. The daylight is so great for my mood and skin (don’t worry, I wear SPF). Does being outside in the sun make you feel good? 😚 🌞 • 2. I want to get to know all of you better! My name is Erin and I’m a creative person. I act, I teach yoga, I’m interested in photography and creating and absorbing beautiful images, I love storytelling. I love being outside, love rock climbing, love my friends. Tell me some things about you! • 3. I love you and your heart and your mind and your body just as you are. I love you for your gender identity and sexuality. I think you’re brave and amazing. • 4. A lot of you found me from my work on television, but I realize lots of you have found me through other avenues! Tell me how you came here to this community! • 5. I go through waves about how I feel regarding Instagram. It’s a weird thing that we share the most beautiful sides of ourselves for the consumption of others, and it leads to lots of self-criticism and judgements and sadness. But this space exists, and it would exist whether or not I’m here, so I will continue to be here and take up space and spread light where I can. Sometimes I like it and feel energized by it. I love engaging in honest and thought-provoking conversation with all of you. For me, the images are an artistic expression for me and also a way to get the attention of people so they see my words and have the chance to engage in conversation. Sometimes Instagram seems like a weird dark pit. I guess the same can be said for life? Anyway, here I am. 👋🏼

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When I first lay down on these mats (which are covered in spikey acupressure lotus flowers), I definitely jumped up and giggled and gasped a bit. All the photos I’d seen of people lying on @pranamat so serenely suddenly seemed ridiculous! (Isn’t this a response we so often have when we feel resistance in ourselves to something other people appear to do with ease?) . I eased myself back down and fought the urge to grit my teeth. I slowed my breath. I focused on extending my breath. Soon... the sharp feeling subsided. My body acclimated. I kid you not, I nearly fell asleep. This physical response reminded me so much of the intensity and acclimation found in Yin yoga. There is so much to discover in this life just beyond our initial discomfort. . These little lotus flowers bring a surge of blood flow to the areas you place on the mats, and this helps increase circulation in your body, which is so healing. I’ve been lying on my mat + pillow set several minutes a day to soothe achey muscles. I’m definitely still exploring new ways to work acupressure into my life. The exploration is pretty fun (as is making all my friends try lying on it 😹). #PranaMat • Would you ever try something like this?! Have you ever? Let me know in the comments!

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Your words don’t have to be big or perfect. Sometimes it’s just that you have words to say at all. Sometimes it’s just about opening your mouth and asking for what you need. Sometimes it’s just about saying your feelings and figuring out the words as you speak them. . Make sure you listen to the words as you speak them. You’ll learn things about yourself as you speak. Give yourself permission to figure it out. 🌊🌊🌊 • Do you ever feel stuck, like you need to speak your feelings and needs to figure them out? 💕

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New hair, who dis? 🤷🏼‍♀️ @spokeandweal - Huge love to @lindsayvictoriahair for this cut and to @dell.miller for color that is so natural, it just looks like the sun did its thing on my hair. (This is my first time coloring my hair ever, and Dell made me feel so comfortable. )💇🏼‍♀️

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Without rhyme or reason, or any explanation... Without justification or excuses, without the compulsive need to put the comfort of another before yours when in your presence, without the worry of your existence displacing another... Without a story that somehow makes it “okay”... Just be. ✨ - How does it feel without the weight of these things upon you, you divine bright light? 😌

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Sun and moon. Light and dark. It’s easy to think of these elements as binary, like in order to exist as one, we must release ourselves fully from the other. How can we be light if we have heaviness, weariness, anxiety, depression within us? The truth is, you are pure light. You were born pure light and you will always be pure light. You need not do anything to become this light or to be worthy of being so. Beauty comes from the dark as well. It’s in the dark that we can see the moon shine brightest. 🌚🌝 - Is this something you’ve struggled with or felt conflicted about? I’d love if you’d tell me in the comments. ❤️ - Beach day with @djadamjohan, who always helps me find the light within the dark.

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We have got to stop shaming people (largely womxn and femmes) for expressing their delight and joy at their own self-existence and expression and beauty. We all possess attributes (physical, mental, emotional) which offer beauty to the world — but it’s more than that. It’s a good thing to feel beautiful for ourselves. And sometimes it feels good to share that online. Why do we shame people for showing skin when they want to show skin? I’m not talking about myself, as I haven’t fallen victim to this much, but I see it all the time. Showing skin doesn’t mean we love ourselves any less. Not showing skin doesn’t mean we love ourselves any less. Skin is beautiful, modesty is beautiful, self-expression is beautiful, and loving oneself (even if they’re fleeting moments and far between) is the most beautiful. Please don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. 🎀 ~~ I’d be honored if you’d share your stories in the comments. - Feeling myself in my #spacebuns👽 and this super quirky and sexy suit by @stuffwithprints. I’m obsessed with this brand which features the artwork of up-and-coming artists on their designs. If you want to wear literal works of art, check them out. ❤️💛💙

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If you’re tiptoeing on the edge of “maybe” or “what if”... What is on the other side of doubt? - We say it all the time: next time, after I finish XYZ first, once I become my own version of “worthy” — as if once you are “worthy” of stepping into your space, it will suddenly feel easy to embody your strength — effortless. The truth is, you have to reach out and grab your peace. That is what strength looks like — you have to hold space within yourself for that peace to live. If you keep waiting, and waiting for it to feel easy, you will be waiting your whole life. But if you’re okay with putting forth the work, the work itself will be so gratifying. You’ll realize the work isn’t a means to an end — the work is how you hold your peace inside yourself. The work is how you transport yourself to another time, another location, another dimension whenever you want. The work is letting every drop of shame leave your body, dripping away with your tears and your sweat, and letting the space it filled remain empty. We get scared because we mistake this space for an empty pit; it’s not. It’s where you hold your peace. - Tell me in the comments what’s on the other side of your doubt. 🌸 - 💫l🌙 @adinas.jewels - 📸 @kathysandersmusic

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Some family we’re born into — some family we choose. Look for those who inspire you to be stronger and also more tender. Look for those who hold you to higher standards, but not with frustration or grief — look instead for those who do so with loving honesty. I’m so grateful my family keeps growing bigger and bigger. - tag someone you’ve added to your family. 😌❤️

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What are you afraid of letting go of? The things we hold onto, we hold onto for a reason. Either because we don’t want to let go, or we don’t know how to, or because letting go means acknowledging they’re there in the first place. - What are you holding on to? Does thinking about it hurt? Does thinking about it feel like healing? Try breathing about it. What does that feel like?

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It’s okay to be all the things. Be strong and soft. Be tender and steadfast. Be courageous and curious. Be angry when it matters and loving always. Feel joy. It doesn’t all have to be heavy. Feel sadness. It doesn’t all have to be light. Don’t be afraid of the darkness. Don’t ever convince yourself the light is for someone else, or some other version of you, if you just adjust or change one more thing. It’s all you. It’s all for you. - P.S. that’s a lil flower in my mouth in the 4th photo 🌸

erinzariah

Self care day. Necessary. . What does a self care day / moment look like for you? It definitely doesn’t always look like prancing around on a beach. It often looks like snuggling on a couch watching shows, or reading, or taking the time to wash my hair and care for my skin, playing video games, indulging in some takeout food instead of cooking, etc. What’s something you do for yourself that makes you feel cared for? ❤️ - P.S. Saw a little pod of 3 dolphins all swimming together 🐬🐬🐬 - swim by @lali_and_layla_swimwear #selfcaresunday

erinzariah

I love you. YOU. I have so much love for you. Do you have love for you? It’s okay if you feel it wavering. In those times, lean on those who have love for you. I have love for you. And I will hold the space for you while you figure out how to hold it for yourself. 🍡🍢🍭🍦❤️ - Psst, leave a comment telling me what self love means to you!!! - - - photo taken by my great love @kathysandersmusic